Part of getting through daily life while grieving has been discussed in our previous blogs—please read these first, if you are just joining us.
The fourth stage of The Five Stages of Grief is depression during which we question the meaning of life and can experience deep sadness and isolation. This is a natural phase in the healing process that requires time and space to move through. However, you may require professional help if you find yourself hopeless, emotionally paralyzed and unable to cope with daily life. Do not hesitate to reach out for assistance.
An important step in moving through your grief is moving. For some of us, the natural tendency when grieving is to curl up in bed and sleep or cry. At most you may trudge to work or school, but even that feels tiring. This is a normal reaction to sadness, but it is also keeping your endorphins and energy at a minimum.
You may find it difficult to move around at first, and perhaps guilty if it alleviates some of your sadness. Do not feel guilty; your lost friend or family member would want you to be at your healthiest at this point…and eventually, they would of course want you to be happy.
This is a hard point for our hearts to fully realize, but if you can, it will affect your whole life.
So, in the meantime, make some time for a local hike—preferably with a friend or loved one. Take a walk around the neighborhood or park; if you have children then take them with you. If you’re feeling angry, take some of that out on a punching bag or treadmill. If you do better with distraction, and distant people around (not expecting to talk to you), take a long stroll through the mall.
Having a scheduled time, with opportunities to meet new people, or to bring friends along, might eventually help you and be a best option. Sign up for a yoga or cycling class. If you end up missing a day or two to grieve, that is fine. Remember that is a normal process. But whenever possible, push yourself to keep going—to build your strength, renew your energy and body, and clear your mind. Being around people will also help; and if you do not wish to talk about your recent loss or trauma, then do not divulge that information. A class is a good place to be social but, if you wish, not talk about what is going on in your life, and receive some breathing space from the questions.
HH4Heroes Grief Easing Strategy #7
A Step in a Forward Facing Direction. An unknown wise person said that, “The only way out of it is through it”. Time has an amazing healing effect on just about everything. In this blog series we’ve discussed several phases and aspects of loss and grief. None is more powerful that father time. There is no set timeline for grieving, mourning and healing. There are only phases that if we allow ourselves to naturally experience and process, we come out the other side finding life in a “new normal.” As your life begins to take on a new rhythm you will naturally desire to create plans and events for life and the living. When you are ready, ponder positive and happy images of what that would look like. Is there something you’ve always wanted to do or accomplish? How might you take your adversity and turn into something for the greater good? Perhaps you would consider journaling about your plans or clip some magazine images that express your thoughts, desires and dreams moving forward. Remember, there is no rush. This can be done in good time and at your own pace. No one is watching.
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