Winston Churchill Is purported to have said, “When you’re going through hell, keep going.” This is, indeed, what grief and loss of a friend or family member can feel like: going through hell.
Grief is a normal and healthy reaction to the loss of someone or something your hold dear. While it is possible to postpone grieving, it is not healthy or prudent to avoid it altogether. This blog series is targeted at helping you manage your emotions around the death of a loved one but is also applicable to any tragedy or calamity you may be confronted with.
There are no easy answers, there are no platitudes that can help, and there is no smooth way out of pain. When grieving the loss of someone you loved or knew, the road can be confusing, dark and painful.
But there are some ways to help, a few things that can ease the pain. And we would like to discuss this with you in this series of blogs.Readingover our series on anxiety, depression, and stress may help as well.
When you lose a loved one, you may have immense feelings of loneliness, sadness, or feeling lost. Attempts on others’ behalf to soothe you may be more irritating or tiring than they are helpful, and that’s okay. It’s perfectly okay to acknowledge that (though perhaps not to the person themselves). Daily life will be interrupted, more so if the loved one lost was a part of your daily habits and routines; but any loved on, no matter how far away or in what capacity they filled your life, will be missed sorely, and will affect your every-day dealings.
This healing process will take some time. There will always be a memory of this loved one, and your life will never be the same. But you can move through the grief, at your own pace.
HH4Heroes Grief Easing Strategy #1
Express Your Emotions. Grief can feel like a surreal 100-foot tall tsunami overtaking your emotions combining fear, disbelief, sadness, anger, shock and profound loss. Stuffing your emotions within the confines of your brain will not help you. In fact, it could hurt by prolonging the mourning period while adding additional stress and anxiety to your already shocked body. Find a way to express your emotions by talking to a trusted friend, family member, the clergy or a therapist/counselor. The point is that is essential to express what you feel. Consider journaling, drawing, punching a pillow, screaming and crying as vehicles for emotional release.
As we begin, think about a few issues surrounding your grief that will add to your healing process as you move on. Do you feel like there is a difference between forgetting and letting go? Do you feel any kind of guilt surrounding the loss of this loved one? Are you angry with yourself, God, others, or even the person you are missing? Do you find yourself feeling alone, but unable to stay long in the company of others? These are all areas of grief that we are going to address in the upcoming blog.
(If you are suicidal, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline provides trained telephone counselors 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Crisis help is a phone call away: 1.800.273.8255)
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