We have already discussed some important ways to help heal your depression, slowly but surely, and if you have not read those articles yet, then please catch yourself up and join us again.
Another important aspect in healing depression is to realize you cannot stake your happiness on one thing, or find your self importance in just one person or activity. It is important to realize that everyone, at some point, loses a job or a relationship or a loved one. This does not lessen the pain or the situation, but it is important in realizing you cannot harbor guilt or shame. Part of moving forward is learning what you can or, when a death or injury is involved, learning to heal and cope with the situation.
These will all, especially dealing with the loss of a friend, take awhile. It is a long process. It is okay to take awhile in healing, and it is okay to seek professional help or help from your friends.
But when dealing with friendships, relationships, goals, and jobs, we must learn to not place all our self-worth in one of the above. When they fail or falter, as does happen in life, we must still see our own good attributes, and have other aspects of our life to fall back on. Life must be full of friends, work, learning, hobbies—both alone and in groups—and many things that, as we discussed earlier, can also help bring us out of depression.
If you are lacking in one of these areas, then make a plan—one step at a time—to right that situation. Join a class, or take a day off of one area of your life to make time for hobbies, friends, or whatever is lacking. Begin a new book, or join a club. Slowly broadening your horizons will help broaden your potential for happiness, and get your mind off of any negative thoughts.
And at the very least, when depression hits, let yourself be distracted. Watch a comedy, a movie, or read a book or magazine. Simply engaging in something absorbing will help pull your mind and emotions out of a destructive cycle, and help you move onto other matters.
HH4Heroes Depression Diffusion Interactive Strategy #9
Pay it Forward. One of my favorite Positive Psychology coaching interventions for depression is to be of service to others. Clearly it is hard to help others when we are having a hard time helping ourselves. This is when we need to call on our courage to step out of our heads and into the world to help others. Doing something kind and useful to help someone else is a fantastic way to start feeling better about yourself. This is called, “the helper’s high” and it is the giddy and intoxicating feeling that comes when we help someone else who needs a hand. You may challenge me by saying you already served our country and this is what got you into this funk to begin with. But this is a different kind of service that is about connecting from the heart and helping someone in need with life’s simple tasks. Go out and volunteer for an hour, a day, a weekend or whatever you can comfortably give. You will see that it is in the giving that you will receive.
Join us next for discussing when the causes of depression run into deep waters. As for right now, relax a little, and begin planning your next steps.
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