We have analyzed some healing tactics concerning thoughts, and giving yourself the freedom to take things at the pace you need. Now, we need to look at another important factor: having a good support system.
There will always be people in life you should not include in your support system—people who do not treat you with respect or encouragement, for instance. When dealing with anything in life, depression and the causes behind it included, it is important to build up friendships with people you can turn to.
It is a dicey situation, learning to be vulnerable with people emotionally, and ask for help. But the benefits will outweigh the difficulties. Remember how your sisters and brothers in arms had your back physically, and could encourage you and help you carry out your mission? The same is true now, in your situation back home. You need people who will have your back, your best interests in heart, and will encourage you when you need to get up and fight again. These are people you can turn to for perspective, to get you out of the house, and to distract you from your problems as well as help you find solutions for these same problems.
Work on building these friendships today. Send someone an email, or call. Remember their problems as you hope they will remember yours, and ask them about the details in their lives. Ask questions, plan for fun events—planning, so it is harder to talk yourself out of it when the depression hits. Even if you don’t feel like it at the time, act on the knowledge that this is good for you. Going out with a friend or talking anything over with them, whether your struggles, or past, or just something simple and frivolous, will be a great step in climbing out of depression.
And remember—ask for what you need. Not everyone can read your mind or just guess at what is bothering you. It doesn’t mean they care less; it means no one has alerted them to the problem. So ask for prayer, ask for help shopping, ask for advice, ask for perspective. Ask when they have free time to have some fun, help with the yard work, or go job hunting, or to help with the baby. When you build up a strong network of close friends, you will have your encouragement and support when you need it, a vital lifeline in the midst of the hard times.
HH4Heroes Depression Diffusion Interactive Strategy #6
Grab a friend and play a little. Often when we are depressed the last thing we feel like doing is talking to someone else and hearing about his or her problems let alone sharing our own. Here is a simple strategy to socially engage- go out and play. Yes, that’s right, call up a friend and make a date to give your mind a rest. You can play cards, play ball, do a puzzle or anything that temporarily takes you away from the dark thoughts and moods. Playing allows us to be in the moment while connecting socially and emotionally with others. While playing, we inevitably begin to communicate about what’s going on and receive support from our friends along the way.
Join us next for some more practical tools for managing your depression.
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